NITHIN A.F.

About Me..............

Nithin A.F.(born 21st September, 1987). I am a Christian, Conservative, Husband, Son, Brother, Psychologist, Author and Speaker. My study on ‘Alarmingly increasing of fear of marriage among girls (Gamophobia) and boys not being able to get girls’ widely discussed (viral) and reached to so many millions of people in Kerala and Malayalees across the globe (Read study: English or Malayalam). Now, I am working as Consultant Psychologist, SUT Hospital Pattom, Trivandrum. Before this, I was working as Psychologist for Covid 19 patients at Government General Hospital, Trivandrum. I worked 558 days continuously without leave or off from 17th March, 2020 to 25th September, 2021 including Christmas, Easter, Onam, My Engagement day etc. without any remuneration. This service changed my life upside down. Then felicitated by many occasions such as Salute-Kerala by Asianet News, Dubai Golden Achievement Award etc. Favorite areas of study are Psychology of Abnormal, Social and Personality. Special interest in Psychological significance of Theology and Philosophy, and Family Structure and its influence in development of Morality and Value System. I did a research for PG from Family Psychology on 'Hierarchical order in families and it's relationship to family functioning'. I carried out Practice/Internship on Clinical Psychology at Government Mental Hospital, Peroorkada, Trivandrum.

== In schools and colleges, about my studies ==

LKG to 4th standard in RCLPS Keezharoor(Mottavila) was an average student. Then went to Govt. HSS Marayamuttom and Tuition in Shaws academy(average in all subject(except Hindi-below average) but I was expert in science). Scored 77% in SSLC(10th) and passed out successfully. Joined LMS HSS Amaravila for +1(11th) studies. Here, I couldn't get a satisfied education because of unfit teachers(Majority). Then +2(12th) continued in Govt. Boys HSS Neyyattinkara and Amrutha computer center(Adv. Shahul Hammeed was a very good teacher in computer science). In 2005, I completed higher secondary course in computer science and Entrance coaching in ZEPHYR Trivandrum. In the middle of 2005, I joined in Govt. Engg College Wayanad. I completed B.tech course in Electronics and Communication Engineering from Government Engineering College, Wayanad. And a member of developers of e-wheelchair as the mini and main projects in B.tech in ECE at Govt. Engg. College, Wayanad. Then I have done IELTS. I passed out BSc in Physic at Mar Ivanios College Trivandrum(IGNOU). I completed Master Degree in Clinical Psychology and scored First Division with Distinction at Mar Ivanios College, Trivandrum(IGNOU). I prepared for Civil Service Examination at Kerala State Civil Service Academy, Plamoodu, Trivandrum and Shankar IAS Academy, Trivandrum. Classes in Civil service Academy and Library facility are very memorable, enjoyable and purpose of God. I cannot express with my words about my academic experiences here. It is not imaginable for a person like me from very remote area of this country and having very low back ground support. Now, I am doing Master Degree in Philosophy at Mar Ivanios College (IGNOU), Trivandrum.

== My Ideology==

My ideology is stable everlasting realism. Good, Right, Happy, Satisfied and Stable are pillars of approach. Stability is inversely proportional to liberalism and everlasting is inversely proportional to atheism. So I am truly conservative and strong believer of God.

== Religious view ==

Personally, I am a real Christian believer i.e. Conservative evangelical protestant Christian. And trying to reach the Love of Jesus Christ to society through scripture and science. I born as an angelical christian and following Evangelical/Pentecostal procedure and practices. And I would like to become a spokesman and a constructor of KINGDOM of GOD. I like to know as BRAND/GOODWILL AMBASSADOR OF GOD. Pr. John Hagee, Dr. K.P. Yohannan, Dr. D.J. Ajith Kumar, George Philip, Dr. Pushpa Raj, R.Stanly, Swami. Gnanodaya etc are most influenced Christian ministers in my life. I have memorized three chapters of Gospel according to St. Matthew(5,6,7), i.e. known as Jesus's sermon on the mount. I completely read the whole bible 26 times when I reached my 26th age, now reading one times in each year as progressing my age. I have a Charitable Society and Ministry with my friend Tinu for developing a new generation named "Builders of New Generation(BNG)"[http://www.bngi.blogspot.com]. I am a member of CSI church at Keezharoor and took baptism under water as JESUS CHRIST.

Professionally, as everyone around me know that keeping equal distance with all religions. I never a Christian Conservative in my professional life. But I conduct my duties and responsibilities based on values I learned from Judea-Christian morality. So probably I hope that all people contact or deal with me get nice behavior from me.

== Family ==

Wife, REJI NITHIN, Research Scholar in History about "Influence of Christian Missionaries in South Travancore". She is a most precious gift of God. Father, AZARY N. Retired Overseer in KSEB, Prime Minister of our home. Mother, FAMEELA is a home maker and great mother and mother of prayer. Brother, Dr. ANOOP A.F, is working in Kozhikode after successfully completed his medical graduation. This family is calm, peace and Joy in every time through JESUS. This family is the purpose of GOD.

==Psychological Studies ==

I chose to pursue Post Graduation in Psychology was an accidental one, but later on I realised that there was a purpose of God behind it. It ignited many of my views and perceptions about social and family issues. My academic interest boosted when started to study Psychology. As a person who likes to study nature of the world and universe in an interdisciplinary manner, it made tremendous contributions to my thought processes and thought experiments. I look forward to establish ultimate peace & truth in this world through family and science in God. So I need to correct some established incorrected teachings. My Psychological studies will be the just beginning in that path.

About my batch, classmates and Academic Counsellors: I with them was one of my incredible moments in my life. Most highlighting moments really was debating on gender and family issues in modern life in Advanced Social Psychology class by Dr. Archana Chandran. She was one of the best teacher that encourage students to debate on social issues. It was helpful very much not only to me but also all of them in the class. When I was debating and making arguments, my opponent Mrs. Sowmya B. Kurup leading opposite side made excellent counter arguments, which really sharpened my arguments to the next level. With her counter arguments, my arguments will be properly tested, which yield effective results to everybody in the class. Constructive criticism makes ideas better. I studied, tested & practiced many things from the class even though it was limited few hours.

Other Academic Counsellors are Dr. Sivakumar T. R. taught Statistics in Psychology, Dr. D. Jayachandran taught Cognitive Psychology, Learning and Memory & Research Methods in Psychology, Mr. Mashook Sha S. taught Life Span Psychology & Personality: Theories and Assessment. In second year: Dr. Kiran taught Psychopathology, Dr. Jayachandran taught Psychodiagnostics and Dr. Leena S.T. taught Psychotherapeutic Methods. My class mates are Ajitha, Amina, Anil P.G., Anuja M.M., Beena Kumari K.C., Beena Mathew, Benzon K.B., Bhadranandan N., Dhanush V.S., Jasmin, Jaya V.S., Juby G.S., Manikandan G.S., Muhisina S., Pratima Paway, Premalatha, Radhakrishnan V., Raji Manoj, Reshmi, Retheesh R. Nair, Sanjay Wilson, Santhosh Kumar N.B., Sarath Kumar S., Sebu J. R., Shamnad S.N., Sheela, Shinod B. N., Siddarth H., Sindhu S., Smitha, Sowmya B. Kurup, Sreeja V. J., Sreejith R.K., Sreeju S.C., Dr. Suresh K. J., Susan Jacob, Udayan S., Vijaya Chandran N. (All available names are in alphabetical order). I have very good relationship with most of these friends. They made this class a wonderful and amazing one. I realised that most of them are genuine in their character and free from double-dealing. As I was the only unmarried student in the class from regular attendees, I enjoyed all your encouragements, comments and opinions. I express my sincere deep gratitude here.

== Advisors ==

My wife, Reji Nithin gives me constructive criticisms and effective discussions. My brother (Dr.Anoop A.F.) and Vinod Mottavila advice me on all areas of life. Intellectually, I seek advices from Sem Vijayadas, Anoop Francis, Rajesh, Deepthi R.R., & Navami P.S. Social Media and IT are advised by Nikhil. God uses all of them.

== Friends ==

Tinu A.S. is my all time friend. He know about me more than any other person in this world. Also I know about him more than he know about himself. It's the God purposed friendship. Vinod Mottavila is good friend of mine. He really happy about my growth and achievements. Prasanth M.P. was good friend ever in my life. He was the witness in all the matters that happened in the Mananthavady. He has good out look to everything, no prejudice, very well attitude. I always like to remember while walking to his home in night with discussions about science and life. It was nice opportunity in my life. And he is one of my Personal Adviser. Abdul Farook, is classmate, project mate, adviser, guide etc. He lived in Pathanamthitta-Ador. He is witness and torch in my life development. He also a gift of God in my life.

My friends at Kerala State Civil Service Academy, are Jishnu, Krishnakumar, Arjun, Kiran, Subi, Akshaya, Soorya, Dickins, Arjun, Vinayan, Vishnu, Midhin etc. They make my life colorful in the Academy and helping me to go forward. I like so much this friendship. I believe that this friendship group is the purpose of God. Each one have their own talent and all of them have good mind, attitude and outlook. And my room mates Sarath, Ramu, Shibu, Amer, Rameshan and Noufal are very helpful as well as informative and Vishnu(SFI).

==Jobs==

Now, working as Consultant Psychologist in SUT Hospital, Pattom, Trivandrum. I was working as Psychologist in Government General Hospital, Thiruvananthapuram from 17/03/2020 to 25/09/2021. I worked in Sutherland Global Service in Cochin for AT&T of United States of America as a technical consultant for 1 year and 3 months in 2011-12.

I worked a part time job in Romansons Business Centre, Statue, Trivandrum as Internet Administrator.(Jan 2014 - Jun 2017)

I taught (part time) Physics for Plus One and Plus Two students in Masters Academy(a tuition centre), near St. Mary's HSS Pattom, Trivandrum.

==My Drawbacks==

1. I am not interested to criticise food items or those who make it. Normally, I eat almost all eatables irrespective of taste that items bible permits. This behaviour of mine could help my mother very much, but mother not like this. Mother wants creative criticism and not eat untasted food rather than eating even untasted foods for the sake of not criticising the cook.

2. Not interested in sports and least interested in meaning less TV programs, movies, social media etc.

3. Softhearted approaches.

4. Least bothered about attractive dressing.

5. Least aware about apparel selections; normally, it's being selected by my mother or brother earlier, now by my wife.

6. Washing cloth is not enough even though I wash seriously as well as daily. My mother blame me only one thing that is for my imperfect cloth washing.

7. Snake fear little bit more than normal even though I killed three snakes.

8. I least aware of how to pose in a photo session pleasantly.

9. I am not interested to take selfie. But no problem if someone take selfie with me.
10. While riding the bike, listening talk/lecture/music via headset.
11. Using pirated E-books and softwares like Operating Systems, application and utility software.

(My more drawbacks will be added here when that revealed and realised to me)

== Most Remembering/Influential Personalities ==

Navami - My Closest Spiritual Confidante, Prasanth M.P. - My Personal Confidant, Rajeev Rajan - My Personal Adviser, and Pr.Joby - My Spiritual Adviser are gift of God in my life.

Donald J. Trump & Mike Pence, President & Vice President of America, Dr. Jordan B. Peterson(Canadian Clinical Psychologist) & Dennis Prager(American Radio Host) and Pr. John Hagee(Cornerstone Church, San Antonio, Texas, United States) and Dr. Billy Graham(North Carolina, United States); these people helped me shape and reinstate my idea about life in Christian and Conservative way. Thomas Aquinas(Italy) helped me to be strong in Philosophy, he is my very influential Philosopher. Prof. William Lane Craig, American Philosopher is my contemporary influential philosopher. Dr. Kent Hovind(Lenox, Alabama, United States), Creationist most influenced me. Dr. Henry Morris and Frank Turek are influencial Apologestics. Pr. Joby (Church of God (Full Gospel) in India, Manathavady, Wayanad) is very important person in my spiritual life. Rev. Jesusdas was priest in our church. Rohit Sharma, my class mate in Civil Service Academy from Utharakand. His lessons on International Politics was very helpful. Vinod Mottavila, my neighbor, talking/discussing opportunities with him always enriching and motivational in my preparation in one of the world's toughest exam(UPSC Civil Service Exam) exceptionally delaying my marriage age and it's issues with social pressure. I carried out Internship on Clinical Psychology/Psychiatry at Ananthapuri Hospitals and Research Institute, Trivandrum under the guidance of Dr. Vrinda Vijay and Government Mental Health Center, Peroorkada, Trivandrum under the guidance of Dr. Nelson T.J.

Three great women influenced my life other than my mother and wife. They changed my perspectives in certain areas of life including views about women turned upside down. They are Varsha Chechi (Wayanad), Allie Beth Stuckey (America) and Navami (Kottayam). They are gift and purpose of my life by God. Areas of influence from Philosophy to Family to God.

== Memorable Teachers ==

Dr. Jordan Peterson, Clinical Psychologist of professor at Toronto University, Canada, he teach me so many things especially Psychological Significance of different subject areas. Mr. Dennis Prager and his Prager University helps me very much to understand more about Conservative Life in scientific and systematic ways. Mr. D. Shankar (Shankar IAS Academy), he thought many thing in short span of time which more than useful of Civil Service Examinations. Mr. Fransis Joseph(Wayanad-IELTS) is unforgettable teacher ever in my life. And he taught life more than IELTS as my father. He is a gift of God always in my Life. His lessons will always guide & teach me in life. Dr. Rajeev Rajen, Staff advisor and Lecturer in ECE, he helped to start a prayer group in GEC Wayanad as well as he is a witness in all my life in Wayanad. Sir and I have a very special spiritual personal relationship. He is also one of my critic in all areas of my life and he knows about more than any other person in this world except Tinu and Prasanth. Mr. Jose Martine M.J. is very good staff adviser in Engg. college. Dr. Kuncheria P. Isaac is very good principle in the History of Govt Engg. college Wayanad. He connect to Dr. Achuth Shankar S. Nair, Hon. Director center of Bio-informatics, Kerala university Trivandrum. Mr. Aneesh Babu and Mr. Thajudeen Ahammed, give help, guidelines, promoting theory and project for reaching the highest. Mrs. Sheeba Poulose, Lecturer in electrical engineering, she had very high expectation about me.

Vinu sir, physics teacher in Shaws Academy, Marayamuttom, (a tuition centre) in high school.

In school classes. I have a very memorable and loving teacher SREE KUMARI THANKACHI. She gave first scientific inputs and encouragement in all of work at 8,9,10 standards. Due to this teacher my friends called me 'Isaac Newton' and all these things happened by the purpose of GOD. And tribute to many teachers make me; "who I am.........."

== Time Line of Land Mark Events in My Life ==

Age	Year	Events
0	1987	Born
4	1991	LKG
6	1991	First grade
14	2001	Saved by Jesus Christ
16	2003	10th grade
16	2003	Started 12th grade
18	2005	Ended 12th grade
		Engineering Entrance Exam Cleared
		Memorized & presented Sermon on the Mount (Mathew: 6, 7 & 8th chapters) of Jesus Christ
		Started Engineering Classes at Govt Engg College Wayanad
20	2007	Baptism as Jesus Christ
21	2008	E-wheel chair developed as Engineering Project
22	2009	Seminar on Principle Theory of Everything
22	2009	Engineering Course Completed
23	2010	IELTS Done
23	2010	Surgery L4-L5 PIVD at SCT Hospital Trivandrum
24	2011	Started job at Sutherland, Kochi
25	2012	Ended job at Sutherland, Kochi
25	2012	Started own company Nitfar Technologies PVT LTD with Farook
26	2013	Started Bsc Physics
27	2014	Started part time job at Romansons
28	2015	Started Coaching for UPSC Civil Service Exam - College Going Batch
29	2016	Cleared Entrance Exam for Kerala State Civil Service Academy
29	2016	Started Regular Civil Service Coaching
30	2017	Passed BSc Physics
		Ended Part time job at Romansons
		Tuition taught for plus two Physics
31	2018	Started Master Degree in Clinical Psychology
31	2018	Closed our company Nitfar
32	2019	PG Research in Family Psychology “Hierarchy in Family System”
		Passed out Master Degree in Clinical Psychology
		Psychologist Intern at Ananthapuri Hospital, Trivandrum
33	2020	Psychologist Intern at Govt Mental Hospital, Oolampara, Trivandrum
		Two Americans visited our home
		Started Master Degree in Philosophy
		Started Psychologist to COVID 19 patients at Govt GH Trivandrum
34	2021	News medias widely reported my service at General Hospital
		Bride Seeing and marriage fixed
		Engagement
		Ended Psychologist to COVID 19 patients at Govt GH Trivandrum
		Joined Consultant Psychologist at SUT Hospital Trivandrum
		‘Salute Kerala’ Asianet News Award Recipient and Rs. 50000
		Gift 1 lake rupees from MA Yousaf Ali
35	2022	Marriage
		Honeymoon
		Bangalore Trip and Flight journey
		Bought IPad
36	2023	Viral Study on Gamophobia among girls